ray, i don't see this as exclusively a sobriety issue. i also see it as a trust issue. you trusted her and she's proven to not be trustworthy. i'm so sorry about her not being who she presented herself to be. i've had friends, all my life, that drifted away when they met a man. for the life of me, i can't understand that. i've never done anything like that and never would. i will pray for you, as you work through this. my confidence in you says that you'll handle it correctly and then you can move on.....xoxoxopat