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Originally Posted by kitten16
To clarify, my T has never said anything about his feelings toward me, other than that (and this was in the beginning) he thought I was a good candidate for therapy and seemed to be a person he could work with. Recently he said he wants to continue our sessions -- the question of continuation came up in relation to his coldness to me, and what I perceive as his inability to identify with me, or take my side when I describe life events to him. He disagrees with all of this. He tends to imply to me that I'm oversensitive and judgmental, and gives me the impression that other people suffer far more from having me in their lives than I do from them! I've just found his lack of sympathy strange (passive-aggressive I guess), and have wondered if his erotic countertransference (or whatever) might be causing his weird blind spot.
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It sounds to me like you might have different goals with therapy; like you want him to identify with you and he wants you to look at your past and those in your life to see if you can change your perception. I don't see anything at all that looks like erotic countertransference to me.
Sympathy may feel nice for a moment but I don't think it will do much good for you in the long run; you poor thing! :-) Nor does looking at your therapist and what problems he may/may not have. I bolded the one statement in what you had to say because it made me think more about you and how you perceive him than it tells me about him.
I think the transference is yours; I imagine from what you have said that you find most people unsympathetic to you?