Yeah Lynn, I've been feeling this way quite a bit. He's supposed to be helping me. The issues I came to therapy for are getting buried under stuff like, what does he want me to say, what should I avoid talking about, why did his face twitch like that, why did he just snap at me, why did he deny snapping at me, etc. It's like a dysfunctional dating relationship! Gah!
So -- I'm going to schedule an appt. with a new person soon, just to get some perspective on this stuff. Thanks so much for your ideas!
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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Kitten16 - sorry I don't know you well, so this question might not be good - but have you thought about changing therapists or are you happy with him? The reason I say this is - you're the patient and you shouldn't be made to feel 'concerned' for his feelings and moods. Like Bohemian Princess said "you're paying him" so he has to accomodate 'you' not the other way around. Once a session over, you should be thinking about what's the next step in your issues, not 'second guessing his reactions/non-reactions. It doesn't mean he's a bad therapist - it just means you and he might not be compatable. But if you do like your T then just disregard what I said lol.
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