You're so right January,

IMHO when we have been brought up with a manipulator, we have this blindspot and we get caught up again with the kind of people that others would avoid like the plague.

I think that we are pretty safe here on PC because our sharing is open and manipulators always trade in secrets and lies. Anyone coming here and playing those tricks would soon be caught out by the wise elders, thank goodness. I've always felt safe here on PC.

I agree with your comment about 'lavishing love' on people. We seem to do that for a pastime. Maybe we think that if we are super nice to everyone we won't get hurt again, but of course the world just isn't like that. Regular people don't need that extra attention and manipulators feed on it.

I would really like to do some work on this thing about spotting the signs.

((((((((((((fay)))))))))) Sorry that you had to go through all that.

Cheers, M