I think she means its still affecting you and you haven't moved past it yet.

When your confused its best to be extra cautious and avoid making big decisions that would have lasting impacts until you figure things out.

I doubt approaching guys for sex is not something you actually want. When your in turmoil and pain part of you might think doing drastic things could help you deal with it, it won't. Doing that could get you even more confused. If you did its not something you can go back in time and take back. You would also develop a reputation that you couldn't restore.

The guy that raped you was only interested in sex, well they say rape isn't about sex its all about power and control. So this guy might not have been interested in sex, just the feeling of being in control and sex was how he would get it.

Many guys aren't interesting in just sex. The guy your with isn't like that. As a teenage guy he would want to have sex, but he seems to enjoy hanging out with you too.

Just hang in there, as time goes by you'll get better and avoid doing anything drastic.

Have you tried meditation? Just sitting down and focusing on breathing really helps to calm and get me feeling better, I can definitly feel more jittery and irritable if I skip it. I haven't been through what you have, but it might help.