I was in an 18 year marriage where anything that seemed shady (like get rich quick schemes that he'd sign on for) was meant to benefit "us" but when they didn't pan out, I was blamed for their failure because I wasn't supportive enough of his efforts. He's a salesman, so he's very good at finding your weak spot to get you to go along with what benefits him most, all the while making it seem as if you'll benefit as much if not more.

I don't know how to spot the behavior all that well yet, so I just avoid meeting men at all now. One, I don't think I'm worthy of a relationship. Two, I'd probably end up in the wrong one anyway.