I am often misunderstood also, Lex. I have very poor social skills and I somehow come off as being *****y (Can I say that here?) and I wasn't feeling at all that way.
I don't know what to tell you since I'm struggling with it myself but I'm pretty sure becoming a hermit isn't the answer.
I know it's frustrating and if you figure out the answer to this then you can help me with it?