I've asked her this and it never goes anywhere. She gets into this intense philosophical discussion (and total misinterpretation) of Hakim Bey's "Temporary Autonomous Zone." Anyway my T says I need to stop being my sister's T. Our relationship is way too mother-daughter and it's unhealthy for both of us. I think it's true that she feels helplessly manipulated, but I don't think she could admit that to me. I think she needs someone who is not so close to work through this with her. Until she is willing to do that, I'm pretty sure the situation is hopeless.