Very good point raised there!! I was in a 7 year marriage, my ex husband manipulated me and wore me down to the extent that I doubted myself in every single aspect possible, I am still battling now actually, as a result, I have gone from one bad relationship to another, inadvertantly going into another manipulative relationship, a lady that I spoke with said that we strangely enough go into another relationship similiar to the one that we 'escaped' from because we have become 'street wise' in way. Isnt life grand?? One person can change the rest of our lives no matter how much we try not to revisit the past. In other words, we are still being manipulated even though we have taken our selves out of the equation. Does that make sense or I am totally nutso?? Take care everyone.