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Originally Posted by jexa
She says such ridiculous things and I am not allowed to criticize them! ... As her older sister, am I supposed to just accept that? I ignore it but what I want to say is, "Are you crazy? This is not the way you live your life!!"
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Originally Posted by jexa
Anyway my T says I need to stop being my sister's T... I think she needs someone who is not so close to work through this with her.
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It sounds as if it's easy for both of you to "push each other's buttons" and hard for either of you not to react accordingly. When you see your only options as criticizing or ignoring, that's a pretty sure sign you've just had your buttons pushed and are too busy reacting to be fully available. For all you or I can tell, wanting to destroy the world may be her off-topic way of expressing that she's mad at someone
*, and frustrated that they react and pass judgment and aren't willing to hear her.
Speculating a bit here -- her refusing therapy
if you were to suggest it could be another obvious way to get back at you for what she perceives as, oh, trying to control her or something. If she were ever to find herself talking to someone who really seemed to her to be listening
and being there looked like her own idea, not someone else's, she might never want to leave.
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*Not always you, though you may be closest at the time.