I still remember when I "felt" someone kneel on my bed to get in with me (when I was living alone in an apartment in the City) and woke right up too like that!

Recurring nightmares I think are trying to tell us something about ourselves and relationship with the world. We are the person in our dreams; sounds like your "shadow" person. I dream of guys like him (I'm a girl) occasionally, just on the outskirts of the area I'm dreaming of; on the stair landing or looking through an open door from another room/area, etc. Creepy :-)

Maybe there's something about yourself you don't want to admit, some problem you don't "want" so refuse to see/accept?