((((TayQuincy))))

We all have parts that are there for a reason. Parts that hold things that otherwise we would not have been able to go through. I think that calling those parts bad are really hard on us. Those parts had to do the job of holding those feelings and things that we were never allowed to have or feel. If we would have allowed those things to be it could have been worse.

Those feelings that we have were walled off and had to go somewhere. The angry and mean parts of myself are important and they play an important part of my being able to be who I am. All people have things they are not proud of, feelings that come out and are felt because of different things we all have gone through. It is just that some were able to feel those things without recourse.

For us we tucked them away until it was safe enough for us to even know we had them. Many times they act out out of frustration or not knowing what else to do. Until we listen to that part or parts of ourselves how can we understand or get to a place where we can feel it like any other person is able to feel.

It takes time and the willingness to see and understand that it is normal to have those feelings and if you did not have them then I think I would be asking why? But it does not make them bad or anything just a part or parts that need to be heard like any other part we have.

Allowing ourselves to feel maybe for the first time is scary. It is not okay to allow them to attack or do things that would hurt you or someone else. Finding a way to release those feelings in a safe and yet understanding way. But recognizing them and telling them that you understand that they have the right to feel that way and that they did a great job in holding those things for you is important.

I know it is hard and I know for us, we still have not really gotten to the place that we can allow those feelings to come but we know they are there. We have at times touched those feelings and parts that hold them and it is scary. But in time we will be able to allow those feelings to come also.

Know that we are listening and we care. Hope this made some sort of sense. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps