feary, I spent a lot of time reading; it helped me pass the time and get through a lot of the really bad stuff and get a rest from my own thoughts. There's nothing quick about time and healing and your life has had a major derail! I would try to think of practical things and ways to be as comfortable as I could while the time passes? I used reading.

When things don't get any worse over time, just keep going on the same disappointing, frightening way, the hold that it all has on you might lessen and you'll be a little less afraid and able to feel/do a little more. For a long while though you might have to hunker down and just do "friendly" simple things. Did you have any hobbies like knitting or sewing or things you could do while you're afraid? Try some seemingly soothing activity that is your choice (to heck with other people telling you to do yoga or various programs) and see if you can get a little self soothing going on. Maybe only decide to go to the library every Tuesday or something :-) just introduce a tiny something that you have chosen yourself that you think might be mildly interesting. Go to the grocery store or large dollar store and pick out a single thing to buy. Focus on yourself rather than your situation.