Well, I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. I discipline mostly by time outs/ and we use a system where she earns rewards for good behavior consequnces including loss of privleges/ allowances for poor behavior. Usually this gives the time and space to calm down (I have always thought that time outs are as muich for adults getting their behavior /emotions together as the kids) So as far as direct consquences I impose, the time lag usually helps me to reoup and relalize that I've been overly harsh and can make adjustments.

My partner was a good balance, but I'm a single parent now so I have to provide my own questions and reminders (at least in the moment).

But sure there have been consequences she has had to endure, dealing with my unreaonableness, my emotional ups and downs, etc...