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Old Apr 16, 2010, 02:11 AM
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Originally Posted by purple_fins View Post
I commend you on being in therapy and seeing this while your child is still young. (I never did that-wish I could do things over...*sigh*) ... I think that's a great thing.
You can see what you're doing, and therapy can help you understand and resolve things so it won't negatively affect your daughter.

advice I'd give--- keep an open mic with your daughter and make sure you OWN your behavior. If she says something you did/said upset her-- validate her feelings.

It can be a tough road but with a good therapist helping you, I think you have a great chance of healing
and your past not hurting your daughter.

best to you

fins
I try to apologize when I feel I was wrong, and we talk about the choices we can make next time. And once I find a tricky area, I can know it's a 'danger zone' and to be cautious. Our family had foster children for many years, but now that I have my daughter, it IS different. More intimate, and I take things more personally... and things that were easy with the boys in our home are definitely NOT easy for me with my girl... this is throwing me as I thought I had this 'wrapped up'.
Thanks for this!
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