It took a long time before I really "got it" that T cares about me deeply and genuinely. I was very good at telling myself "she cares just because it is her job to care."

I don't know what made it finally click for me. The evidence was always there, but I just wasn't able to see it for a long time. I think it really hit home one session when T had just gotten back from vacation and she said that she saw a book in a store and it made her think of me...It wasn't a therapy-related book. It was just something that she thought I would really enjoy reading.

Do you have any objective evidence of T's caring for you? Can you think back to anything--a warm smile or kind words or a voicemail/email or anything like that?

I've actually asked T before if she cares. I wonder if you can ask?