My t and my pdoc will often actually thank me for being open with them. They know it is a difficult process and acknowledge that to me with their thanks. And I know they do think about me at least now and then when I'm not right in front of them because they'll occasionally call me unrequested, or they'll mention having thought about my situation while they were doing something else. When t and I were talking about my need to decompress after a crisis, he related it to how he deals with me when I am in crisis. He is focused and in management mode (and nobody get in his way while he's in crisis management mode). It is after he knows that I am safe that he takes the time to "feel" about me and my situation. It meant a lot to me to hear him say that he does "feel" about me; in other word, he gets scared during those crises too.