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My T used to tell me ALL the time that it was okay for me to get angry at him. It did totally confuse me...why would I be angry at *him*??

But then I did get angry at him, more than once. Which was weird, because outside of therapy, I am not an angry person. The feelings at the time were real, but looking back, I think it was almost like T was a safe place to "practice" being angry. Sometimes we *should* be angry about things that have been done to us, but we don't know how.

I was angry at someone a few months ago, and I realized that it's the first time since starting T that I've been angry at someone who wasn't T . I don't really get angry at him in the same way anymore, but it was almost like it was something I *had* to go through before I could be angry at the people I am actually angry at.

It's hard, isn't it? My T says that being angry is not the same as being "mean". Anger is a feeling just like any other feeling, and it is there to give us information. We can express our anger without being hurtful or making someone our "punching bag". That was a hard thing for me to understand for a long time.

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