I've been through hell and back these last 5 years. I've been trying like hell to get past what my ex bf did to me and I can't seem to get past it. I've gone into detail before about him using my body to molest a child...a little girl. Do I have to forgive him to get past this trauma?

People tell me all the time that time will heal this but it hasn't. What I want to know is how do I get over it? I do not think I can forgive a monster like him. I've tried cognitive behavioral therapy, talk therapy, group therapy, roleplaying, DBT, you name it and I've done it to get over this, but nothing's working. I'm at my wits end about this. Any suggestions?