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Originally Posted by Typo
((((((((REEG)))))))))
I'm not a parent, but when I discussed my desire to have children some day T said that it would most likely bring up things from my childhood and I would have to reenroll in therapy
I've noticed that certain stages my little sister goes through will trigger me (I'm 8 years older than here and I take care of her a lot, I almost have a 3rd parent role) I find myself having to walk away, take a time out, and come back so we can discussed what happened and why it wasn't okay, or why it shouldn't happen.
I understand how you feel, please remember to not only be kind and patient with your own daughter but also with yourself,
Sending best wishes and many peaceful thoughts
Typo
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Sometimes too what is difficult is that my daughter is SO expressive, where I'd like to be, at times. She has her own stuggles with SA and bio family issues from before we knew her, and is in T, I'm open about the fact I am too and that we both have things to work on.
THis helps- but the awareness that I have been overly judgemental or have limited opportunities or stunted her awareness/ growth because of MY issues has been the biggest motivator EVER, much different than the T I did when I was single, because it's not just about me.