(((muse)))
My daughter has a bladder disease. She was diagnosed at 18 but is now 26 and engaged to her man who is the father of my beautiful 4 year old grandson.
It is so hard sometimes to cope with the ER visits, the pain, the illness (which is so unfair to be inflicted on such a young, beautiful, vibrant woman). Her man is just now understanding the gravity of her illness and what she needs from him (after 6 years together).
I applaud you for your support and at the same time understand how hard it can be. When there is nothing you can do to ease her pain....just hold her and tell her that you love her....there is so much healing in that!
Muse...open up to her about your depression/anxiety and let her do the same for you. I'm sure that she would welcome the opportunity to give back to you what you give to her.