Wow! So underneith it all I hear you just want to live comfortable in your city in peace after all is said and done. I'd say you have more than earned that right. However, even with a verbal agreement, money still leaves trails...one of those trails leads to the IRS, bank statements, etc. A good attorney could help you out. If I were you, I Would not want to have anything to do with your kids either. Seems their father taught them how to treat you. You deserve so much better than that. The best revenge in this case is living well and loving yourself. Safe hugs for you.