Is it possible that your children have PTSD from growing up with their father and didn't learn this, because they looked up to him in some way? I ask, because I've treated my mother badly, because of my PTSD and I feel terrible about it. In no way do I want to be like my father, so I made a point to try to be not at all like him, because I hate him. I know that I was angry at him, but I expressed it to everyone and I hurt so many people that I love and I truly regret it.

Definitely try to get back to the city, since you will feel better there. I know what it's like to go from the city to anywhere else. Anywhere else is boring and doesn't have the resources and transportation like the city does. Everything is so far apart out here. At least in the city, I could walk down to the corner store and get everything I need. I can't even get a gallon of milk down at this store out here, they already opened it and most be selling it by the cup.

I wouldn't reccomend staying near your son, but I wouldn't want my mom to give up on me completely. (Well, she already did, when I was 17, but she is back in my life now, although, she's in NY, and I'm not) But I feel like she's all I have sometimes. She's the only one I can turn to that will always take care of me. Must I blame myself for treating her that way? I never was told how to handle my PTSD then and I was never taught how to deal with anger appropriately, other than hold it in, because it's a scary emotion. But when it all boils over? All I saw was, yell and scream and become violent...

I don't know if your kids feel the same way about you as I do about my mom. But it does sound like your son is manipulating you and pulled a trick on you (which is not a symptom of PISD), you can't allow yourself to be abused, and he needs to give you that money.

I may have totally different feelings about this, since my son is only a toddler and I was adandoned myself, because of my mental illness, because I was abused by my other parent. My husband was also adandoned by his mother and father, a few times and they still won't talk to him. The blame is on them though, he was 18, but his other siblings were all underage and his parents abused him and his siblings. It's makes me sad about the world... But here your children are grown and they can probably take care of themselves, so it wouldn't be the same at all. They probably know better.