I actually didn't know the difference between Hustler and Playboy--I'm just sheltered I guess. This information (unfortunately) was very relevant as we were specifically discussing porn, the different types, were any "OK" or "not OK", what is the line between porn and art, etc. My XH had/has a porn habit, and we were discussing that in light of our daughters who were now going to be spending time with him alone, since he now had his own place--would they be exposed to porn? And then my H asked, well how did one define "porn"? (This was a couples session.) And as part of that, the different magazines came up. T didn't give his explanation in a condescending way at all. It was very professional, straightforward, etc. It was I who was kind of uncomfortable. It just had an air of unreality to it (I felt like I was watching T tell me about porn magazines from afar, instead of listening to him myself say these things.) I did wonder how does T know so much about porn? But, kitten, you yourself say you know the differences between those magazines, so maybe it is common knowledge (even more so among men), and maybe T does buy porn magazines--who knows?? (I don't want to know.) I do know this is a topic he has to deal with frequently as he helps parents come to agreements about taking care of their children. I think having T explain the difference in the magazines was better than having my H do it. That would have been really bad. I am so glad to be done with couples therapy!

Farmergirl, I have that book Blink but haven't read it yet. Sounds interesting. (I read another book (Outliers) by the same author recently, and it was great!). A book that discusses the value of one's "gut feelings" (sometimes life-saving) is "The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect us from Violence" by Gavin de Becker. This was a very important book to me in the early days of my separating from my XH.