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Originally Posted by trying to
I know he doesnt seem to care,but he seems to put the blame on me some how, and yes he does want an open marriage, i dont. we been married for 20yrs and it has changed in the last 4-5years with the porn and open marriage thing.
I told him i think something is going on when i seen the email account, all he could do is say noppe there isnt and if you think so he said "get out then if you think so' and hasnt said anything about it since and woke up this morning as if nothing happened.
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This is a control tactic used by a lot of people. He knows your weaknesses and he is exploiting them to the fullest. Are you afraid to be alone? are you co-dependant? I ask these things becasue someone with healthy self-esteem would not put up with an open marriage if they didnt want it.
I can understand that your insecure about the e-mail accounts. He is clearly being deceptive and not showing any compassion towards you. I know being in these relationships are hard, and leaving is even harder. He will only treat you the way you allow him to.
If you can afford to see a T do it. Talk about your feelings and get some help, work on your self-esteem and dont accept this type of abuse.