So for months I have been trying to figure out what is going on with my bf. I know that he means well but some of his tendencies just dont make sense sometimes. At first I thought maybe narcissism because he seems to have an emotional disconnect with just about everyone, including myself. Now Im noticing other things that have me thinking autism or aspergers that has gone unnoticed for years. Some background: He is almost 27 and is about to graduate with his MS in Forestry so he is an intelligent guy. When it comes to speaking, sometimes he will just stop in the middle of a sentence and never finish it. Ill ask what he was going to say and he wont even remember what he was talking about. Sometimes it seems like he just tunes people out. He will just sit there while you ask him something and not even notice that youre speaking to him. When he does talk its kind of choppy unless he is really comfortable with you. He will make little awkward jokes and kind of seems like he doesnt understand what is appropriate for certain situations. Like he will make a joke and I will think to myself "I cant believe you just said that". Its extremely difficult for him to deal with emotions and, sometimes, just gets upset and angry and cant even name emotions that HE feels.

He also really has trouble making friends and keeping them. He has maybe 1 friend that he actually got attached to but I ask him constantly if he has any friends he wants to go out with and he says he doesnt have any. I just feel like if we can actually pinpoint what is going on, it might be easier to deal with. Im just starting to get frustrated not feeling that emotional connection with him all the time. Any help?