I know I'm fairly unique because my former T and I often saw each other in public. When I read the posts and see how others feel, it makes me think that my reaction to my T in RL is not so weird.

When I first used to see her, I wanted to run away. I couldn't concentrate on anything if we were in the same place. Gradually, though, when I'd run into her at a big dinner I'd have to "find her" and say hello. I'd always find her though of course she never looked for me. That started my "watching her" when I knew we'd be in the same place. This only happened about every few months or so.

Once I ran into her in a grocery store and it's the only time she approached me first. I was caught off guard. She wanted to tell me I had left her a nice phone message!

My T came to my house twice, but they were for legitimate reasons. She did not cross boundaries, and there were always other people there. She is always good about keeping her identity a secret! (not telling anyone she's my T).

I hope to become comfortable seeing her in public one day, and not be triggered any more. Sometimes that happened in the past, so it CAN be that way.

I don't think I'd be triggered seeing Kt in public. So far we seem more equal and she doesn't have that power over me like Bt had.