Did you see another T yet? Maybe your T is afraid of you or intimidated by you. It doesn't seem like the best match to me, so I think getting another opinion is a good idea for you. Maybe you need another type of approach. I'm reminded of my therapy experiences where I spend more time analyzing my T than on working on myself. That could be because it's a distraction from doing my own work, or because the particular T is triggering. If you think a great deal about wanting something from T that he can't give you, I think you really need to discuss with him what that is or find a different T.

It's easier to tell someone else what you see rather than see it in yourself. You remind me of the way I was always analyzing Bt. I could be way off--just my impressions at the moment.