Whoa. You are angry and that is ok. A lot of words typed on the internet. Your poor key board must be suffering the jittering and clattering shakes. Ok sic humour.

Trust has been broken.

I believe you were an incredibly BRAVE man to make a commitment: Marriage to a woman who had come from an old relationship/s with emotional baggage and unresolved past issues. She had three children from the past relationship/s and despite all of that, you made a COMMITMENT to marry her and her children. (Don't know if you and she had counselling prior the marriage to deal with the hurt of her past relationship/s).

You believe in FAITH AND TRUST in a relationship. When men make a commitment it usually is permanent. Look at the love to a football team.

Marriage is a very big investment for a man. You must have truly BELIEVED that you could be the provider, protector and dad to this woman and her family. She must have believed it too because she said yes.

The lost job is an incredible blow.

Your own image of BEING THE PROVIDER, Hero was thrown in the deep end. Men need the provisions of having a job and money for self and family is a very deep ego thing. (No not sarcasm). How do you measure up to other men, if you can't provide for your own lot. For you especially if former family members and friends, questioned your commitment to a woman who had unresolved baggage. Not real supportive for you now (or then maybe). With the...."I told you it was no good...."

Be wise with your actions.

The war for your one child is not fair to the others who have known you, and seen you, and have been a part of your marriage life for 4years prior the arrival of the new baby. They also have been a part of the [COLOR="Magenta"]TIME INVESTMENT COLOR] that you had placed in them, by building a love and trust relationship with each of them and with their mum.

Be wise. They have seen your actions and commitment to faith, trust, love, provision and promises to include them in your life. Do not teach them to become bitter and hateful towards you or your baby or their mother. They will see the FAVOURITISM, but REMEMBER, the three of them had had a relationship with you, their DADDY HERO first, before the baby came along.

Those young vulnerable eyes are watching you.

You have been the DADDY HERO, that has come into their young lives and their mother's life.... The DADDY HERO who has promised to protect, provide, teach and love them for the rest of their growing up life.

Take time out to THINK, FAIRLY AND WISELY. You have done it before. That time was when you had to make that biggest commitment: Do you marry this beautiful woman, lady, mother of three? Even the priest, pastor, reverend asked you at the altar.

You know HOW TO THINK, FAIRLY AND WISELY.
ALL YOUR 4 vulnerable CHILDREN, will be watching you.

They need you to stand by the commitment you had made to them. Love them and support them in whatever capacity you can... you had married them too.
Hopefully, your children will learn, remember and understand the lesson of FAITH, LOVE, TRUST, COMMITMENT AND COURAGE NEEDED TO FACE MARRIAGE, and that broken relationships need deep healing before that step too.

These children, need you as their friend and someone who will need to be an ANCHOR when they go through their own troubles later. (That could be tomorrow when they ring you and are crying because mummy is upset or the visitors are not nice).

Be remembered as a DADDY HERO who still loves them no matter what: humility, forgiveness and compassion. You know who you are deep below all the HURT. You are ok now and you will be ok. This is just a little HICCUP.

Don't let this little HICCUP destroy your ultimate standards of FAITH, LOVE, COURAGE, TRUST AND COMMITMENT. They are valuable for your children and their children.

I am crying for you. Because I know what it's like. I blow my nose for you.
God Bless.

Read 5 love languages by Gary Chapman.