Worst of all T told me she never worked with a person with sex problems quite like mine. She does sex trauma stuff and did her dissertation on sex functioning but she never treated this problem I am having.

UGH! I can understand why you are so upset when a T. who claims to have expertise in your issue blurts out an inappropriate statement like this. I can see how you would lose confidence with her and think your time and money and efforts have been lost. You might think from the T's statement that there may be no solution to your issue when, in fact, the REAL issue is that you are with a T who does not appear to have enough experience. It takes a while to find the right therapist. Keep looking.