I will share with you what I have read and what my T has shared with me. "Like attracts like." We all have N traits, some just more extreme than others. A great book to read is "Trapped in the mirror."

It is a well written book about N and how our caregivers make us this way. It all starts during the formative years and just continues, generation to generation until someone stops the cycle.

This type of personality is attracted to you, but you are also attracted to them. Do some introspection and see what comes out..maybe low self-esteem, co-dependant behavior..etc.