(((((chick))))))) I'm really sorry about these two really sad deaths. I hope you and your friend pull through this together. Sometimes all you can do is be available by phone, computer and US mail when someone lives so far away.
You and your family are going through a very tough time. I'll send a prayer out for you. Try to stay strong and don't be afraid to cry if you need to. Again, I'm really very sorry this is going on in your life.