Thank you for answering me. Now I can feel some relief. He was very upset before, waiting for someone to answer him. He seems very impatient, co-dependent, depressed, lonely, protective, manic, and angry. I read something about how to communicate with him. I tried to write to him and he was very angry with me for trying to remember the trauma. He told me I'll never find out, it's not my job to remember, I need to shut the &*^% up and stop it. When I tried to write to my husband, he got very upset. He told me I couldn't talk to my husband, because my husband will try to get me to tell him things. Yes, many times he has asked me about traumas that I wasn't ready or wanted to talk about, but it's only because he cares. And he's usually very understanding and supportive.