Jen...first, I think you already stated what you need to tell this person. Email her and tell her, "I don't know how to be a friend". Chances are she struggles with this too. Perhaps you can work out what it means to be a friend to each other, together. Taking things one step at a time. It's really all you can do.

As for meeting Parker. Ohhhh, do I understand. I've met 2 people in person that I met online. One turned out to be a pot head and someone I couldn't even relate to. Of course, after he met/saw me, I never heard from him again. But I think I rushed myself into meeting him. I wasn't ready. had I known him better, I wouldn't have agreed to it. That's one of the main reasons why I don't try harder to get together with Bethy. (Shhhh, don't tell her) The fear of rejection is very strong and very real.

The other person I met was my husband. And hey, that turned out great! I guess what I am saying is that taking the risk and putting yourself out there is part of life. Taking the chance that you will be rejected opens you up to so many great experiences. Yes, it is scary and yes, you could be hurt. But think of the possibility of what you are getting in return. A new, wonderful friend.

Do what is best for you. If, right now, you need to protect yourself, and have those "no strings" relationships, that is fine. Someday you will be ready and I hope then you take the chance then. Don't push things though. If you're not ready, you're not ready.

You can do it, Jen. Baby steps. ((((((((((Jen))))))))))