velcro, some T's don't offer phone contact but others do. They only make/take phone calls during the times that they are able to have phone conversations - they know how to set their own boundaries and they have the choice to offer this. Your T offers it because she wants to. And, your T may talk to different clients differently. For example, someone who called her every day to try and keep her on the phone for a long time wouldn't keep getting told, "You can call anytime." But you have a hard time talking in session and I bet T would be glad to get communication from you when you feel like talking! Your problem isn't being needy and calling T all the time -- your problem is opening up -- so offering the phone calls is beneficial to your therapy.

In DBT therapy the phone contact is crucial. Marsha Linehan (creator of DBT) says that offering therapy without phone contact is like being a coach at practices but never showing up for the game itself. That phone contact is like the coach "showing up for the game."