Hi nowhere,

Maybe the best thing is to do nothing. As for the matter with this person, I think I've done my part as a friend to a degree that I thought I could and should have done. I will be quiet and maybe silent at my side and see what may happen as time goes. And decide then what I want to do, maybe it's easier to figure out. I don't consider dealing with friends as a ball game or something, but the ball's indeed in his hands.

Look beyond at a larger scale to the replacement of new dynamics of old ones, I think what you've said made sense. Just sometimes I want to be a kind of "tough" people. Like when I've set my attitude on a matter, I won't change it anymore no matter what new circumstances may occur, because the reasoning for my previous conclusion was based on clear recognition of the essential of the troubles that bothered me. If the same thing is repeating, that should at least suggests nothing fundamental has changed. But, this type of "toughness", I don't always have

Compassion. That must be a hard feeling for someone who learns the treatments he or she recieves are out of people's compassion. I feel compassion sometimes suggests unfairness, the person who in lower position may feel things are not fair because the ones who are nice to them had no such problems or whatsoever. I can be compassinate to refugees, starved people, homeless ones, but I don't know if I should hold something similar when a friend who is in down time. As for this friend, I don't feel I was pitying him, though I have to admit I was disturbed seeing sadness on his face and in his eyes. I hate to do something wrong out of a result of misunderstanding or mis-interpreted the reasons for such sadnesses. But there shouldn't be shameness in talking with what's troubling us to friends, should it? Maybe some people just are withdrawn like that. Guess nothing I can do to help with this matter.

I guess I was reaching the bottom line of my tolerance level because of the high intensity of my feeling last night. But I'm much relaxed today. So, am I gonna have more capacity of tolerance? I don't know. All I want now is to relax a bit more.

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.