Yes, you are oh so right.. AJ only thinks of himself...And there is no one to bail him out of any situation when his dad and I are gone...Sad, tho, then it will be too late for him to wise up as to what he is doing to me and in may ways, the way he is using his dad... very sad indeed...

I don't know how to respond to all of this anymore.. I am thinking that all of this isn't just about AJ.. I, too, have some issues with depression, according to the depression tests. But if I was as bad as these tests results, I'd think I'd be in bed all the time.. Anyway, I have other issues, anxiety, and I don't go beyond the yard, which is an improvement, because for several years I did not even go outdoors...SO with him venting his anger at me, throws me back l00 steps.. Because I force myself to do things, it isn't easy for me sometimes.. So I am not dealing all that well with his "attitude"... We both probably have issues.. I am atleast working on mine..or trying to........ Can't say that for AJ...

He knows better to talk to his dad the way he does me.. He knows what he is doing.. He knows how hurtful he can be.. He admits he is a jerk towards me.. yadayada...

I've got to pull myself together and stop letting AJ walk all over me. Everything is too overwhelming now.

AJ knows there are consequences for his actions...I think we are at fault..AJ's dad is financially bailing out AJ.. Guess my "bailing out" is doing the required chores to maintain this house...I don't know why we are doing this... I do know we need to stop doing what we do..........I don't know what our excuses are... AJ knows what to do, he just won't do it..

I am talking in circles now...Thanks for understanding .. Everything is such a mess...Something has to be done...that is for sure.........and it is clear I am not doing what I need to do to make this situation better..