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Apr 19, 2010, 11:53 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
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The best thing you can do for you and your brother's relationship is to remember that you were a child and you were scared. Your Brother did what he did...unfortunately, there were some negative consequences he had to face. (It sounds like it could have gone either way at the time).
Yes, he did what he did to help you...but he made his choice. You don't owe him anything other than you love and respect and appreciation.
That being said...take heed to keep good boundaries between you and him. In a situation like this, it is easy to become co-dependent on one another and it is easy to let the guilt push us into thinking we can let others take advantage of us because we "owe" them. I'm not saying your Brother would do that, take advantage of you  I'm just saying to keep healhy boundaries in yours and his relationships.
It wasn't your job to protect your Brother when you were a child. It was your parent's or guardian's job and it sounds like they didn't do it very well.
If you can work with the guilt instead of letting it control you, then thins will most likely be good for you and your Bro. But if you think for a second that it could cause you and him to have issues with boundaries, I would suggest finding a counselor to talk to about this to help you work things through.
I'm glad you and your Brother have each other and I hope things work out. Keep us posted. 
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