I totally understand how challenging it is when you have no response to a significant email. This happened A LOT in the past for me. When my T would not respond the noise in my head would come up with all kinds of reasons why. 90% of these reasons were TOTALLY wrong.

I know everyone's situation is different so these may not be the same for you. But here are a few things I've learned;

1) The reasons I come up with for why I got no response were nowhere near the truth. My T wasn't sitting back waiting for me to explode or trying to see how I would react. My T wasn't trying to punish me for emailing too much. My T wasn't so shocked/disgusted/angry/dissappointed/etc with what I wrote that she didn't know how to respond.And my T wasn't trying to send me a subtle message that outside of the 1hr every other week that, she really couldn't care less if I was struggling. There are a lot of non-negative reasons why some email messages are replied to, some tagged for in-session follow-up, some just acknowledged and shelved. I don't always know why unless it bothers me enough to ask about it. Then its discussed and put to bed.

2) Dispite how important and how clearly worded I thought some of my email messages were, I don't think my T really understood some of them. Often when I eventually followed up with my T about how I was struggling she would sometimes things like, "I did realize you were having so much trouble with that.You need to tell me these things, I need to check in better with you before you leave."

3) I have come to realize that there are some messages that my T will simply not respond to. IDK if it is a specific technique or if she is just exercising her option not to address things via email. For me, when I send an email that contains self-attacking/ self loathing content generated from my abuse "parasite", my T does not respond and often doesn't mention those emails directly during our sessions, unless I seem to be stuck listening to its BS. IDK by her doing that, I can now usually self identify messages written by the parasite now. This noise is just crap and really doesn't warrant a response.

The hardest part of this learning process for me was that I was bullheaded and would not ask my T directly about things. And I would bury stuff in email instead of tell her when I was there in the session. As hard as it is to do, I now GET that if I'm really struggling...I need to speak to her about it because the message often doesn't get understood otherwise. Personally that is one thing that I totally HATE about therapy.