i think it's a great idea because you are negotiating boundaries and also willing to take into consideration that you don't want to burden her. she has already been very clear that she doesn't want to be an email-T. she told you that initially and then she told you that in her reply (last week?). so it's a great idea because she has already set a boundary, and now you are negotiating a way for you to still email but without the expectation that she is an email therapist.

fwiw, i think she would have become more insistent eventually if you kept emailing and expecting answers. maybe i am missing part of what she said, or have forgotten, but i thought that reminding you she didn't want to be an email-T was kind of clear that she didn't want to respond to emails and would prefer to do that work face to face. i'm a bit confused about why you're still emailing then - and now wanting to check that if you ask for a response that you will get it. isn't that kind of not respecting a boundary she's put in place? given that you always want a response (this is why you email) then how are you going to differentiate between the times you really need a response and the times that you don't?

i think what you said about how it's not about her - it's about your feelings/reactions to it all is what is important - that's a great insight!!!! i wonder if you can focus on the feelings side of things next time instead of getting into that convoluted game of trying to get someone to do something for you that they have already been pretty firm about not wanting to do.