Wish I could help. But I am in same boat. I don't know what it is with family. But I have decided to try not to let them make me miserable. Sometimes friends or even online friends are more helpful more supportive than family. Read up on depression and support and also on family. I'm kind of estranged from mine trying to not let it depress me more. You should try not to let them bring you down either. I'm sorry about your daughter. But you can't change people. If they are determined to be distant you have to somehow explain to your daughter that they live far away or something I don't really know. But just spend extra time with her, let her make friends and you make friends. Don't rely on your family right now. Every now and then you can send a note but the ball is in their court.