I agree that this can be a really good, healing thing....I think the absolute most healing part of my therapy is dealing with this exact issue. Wanting T to be my mom.

It's also been the scariest, most painful part of my therapy. It's brought a lot of grief to the surface because I realize that she can't ever be my mom. No one can ever make up for that loss.

Yet, I've learned that she can nurture me if I trust her and let her...she can fill some of those needs while also helping me grieve the loss of a good mom.

When I sit across from my T, I sometimes feel like I'm being held by a good mommy. It's so nice and safe and healing