((((shez))))
I think that usually things happen for a reason. Even the bad things, they make us stronger people and we can learn from them. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

I hope that maybe you can learn to communicate better with your new partner, or maybe find someone else, or just try to do it single for a while. It's not always the best thing to start a relationship on the rebound. You might just be using the relationship to ignore your pain, to self-medicate. Those emotions you had for your spouse might be displaced unto your new partner, and you may still be trying to get over your spouse, so you might not even be able to be there emotionally with this partner. Also, we that have been SA'd have problems understanding how to have both an open communicating relationship on an emotional level with a sexual relationship. It's best to start with a friendship first, so that you can communicate as well. I know you want that connection as well as a physical relationship. Maybe you could try to slow it down, so that maybe this new relationship could grow into a full one?

I hope you feel better soon.