I know, old thread.

I feel what the OP is saying.

I come from a small town in a small state and the only way to meet lesbians is through the bar. There are no organizations to join. The people in this area are closeted bigots. No, I'm not talking about the gay folks and whatnot, I mean straight people. There is a persistent loathing for rainbow folks and for persons of color.

I quit drinking over a year ago. I was mid-stage into alcohol addiction when I quit. I'm desperate for some lesbian friends, but I don't want to go to the bar to meet them. Although I used to play sports I'm more interested in art and conversation.

I am neither butch nor femme. II don't fit into a specific gay woman category. I would love to meet others like me, but where are they? Looks like I'm going to have to move soon.