(((((((((((Zooropa))))))))))))
I don't really have any good advice about the situation.
I just want to say I am really impressed with how you are handling everything - and voicing your needs. You are being very reasonable and level-headed despite all the abandoment triggers and fears.
I really hope this gets resolved soon and that you are able to work out a good solution with your T.
About the trauma work taking 12 weeks, can you ask your T what happens if it takes LONGER than that? I mean, if at the end of 12 weeks you are not done, she won't just cut you off, will she? I think it would be helpful to know how she would handle that.