Tay, I disagree with your "insight" into therapy and trauma work and what "should" and shouldn't be done. Just knowing coping skills in itself is often not enought. Sometimes continuing to sh or whatever whilst working through ones wounds is normal. There are no hard and fast rules to any of this. I know you feel that perhaps you have some control over recovery by making such exclaimations, but they can be harmful to say this shouldn't be happening or that shouldnt be happening until ABC is in place, sorry it doesnt work like that, we're human, not machines. I'm sure everyone is aware of work "coping skills" are, there everywhere to be read, any fool can look them up, but whether one can manage them until healing has taken place is another matter. No malice intended in my reply, but I've picked up a couple of times your insistance of what works.