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Originally Posted by phlashback
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Well it turns out she has a boyfriend... however the relationship seems to be on the rocks. Apparently he is mad at her because she wants to hold hands in public, and cuddle when in private watching a movie. He also sees nothing wrong with spending their time together playing WOW and using facebook while she sits on the couch. She let me read his email to her, and I was kind of like... what do you see in this guy. He thinks that is being pushy.. Funny thing is that is what I am missing in my life. I also should mention that they only see each other on the weekends because his he is "too busy". She lives 10 minutes out of town, and that is too far for him to go. But he also gets upset if she calls him during the week to talk. I work a full time job, have to continue my education on my own time, and I could make the time.
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Hold in there, keep being there for her for now. Just make sure you let her know if she wants to get romantically involved, that she must get rid of the boyfriend first.
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He is 30, unemployed and living in his mothers basement. His mom is paying for him to go back to school (4th time). His area of study is my field of work. Apparently he has trouble with the lab work involved... well I hate to say it, but in my field it is not about the book knowledge but application. If you can't do the labs you’re looking at the wrong line of work.
Admittedly I am 31 and live in my parent’s lower level.... but my situation is that I moved back in to help them, and am currently the one who makes the house payment.
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I can see a very great difference here, he is mooching off your parents, you are helping yours. It shows to me that you are a great person and deserve to have good things in your life.
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Our relationship is that of just friends... but for me this is a big step as it *is* a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. The thing I find funny is that she spent last weekend with me, as he wanted space. She loves hockey, and I have season tickets so after we had spent the day together I took her to the game Saturday. Then she went with me to the game on Sunday where I had tickets in the ice box. We had a blast and after Sundays game we tried ice skating. I split my pants the third time I went to the ground, and we both had a good laugh. She commented that she wanted to do that again.
I am keeping the door open, and we have been spending time together which helps build my confidence... also I have noticed that when I am with her I seem to get more attention from other girls.
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I really hope she isn't just using you as an emotional break and then thinking that she should stay in a relationship that seems obvious to me she need to get out of. Not trying to scare you here, sorry if it did.
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She knows that I like her in a more than friends way, but I am happy having her as a friend. She puts a smile on my face, and is the polar opposite of me. For nothing else it is a change, and feels good at the moment. She has also admitted that she is attracted to me, but she still *loves* her boyfriend. I just wonder what he thinks about me spending time and making her smile... hehehe
It is ironic that my feelings about myself and my anxieties really are all that stand in the way for me. Looking at this guy I'm thinking what a looser. I am a better catch in so many ways... not perfect, but hell.
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I wish you the best of luck, just try to not get too attached emotionally. If she does break up with him she may not truely realize what she has in front of her and date someone else (other than you). It seems that people follow a trend when it comes to relationships and fall into one bad relationship after another. I hope for your sake, she can see what's in front of her.
Be advised... this is noob advice, but advice afterall. Good luck!!