Wow, that's exactly how I want to see my T. I'm not quite sure if I do though. But I'm wondering if that's what I'm missing -- whether I like it or not, he's a kind of projected father. My own father not only failed to protect me, but actively exposed me to danger and harm because it was fun for him. (I wasn't a sexual abuse victim, but I think you feel some echoes of this, WePow)

So it's important to me that my T seem -- protective. Exactly. Thanks for the insight!