Pachy, I just thought of this. When you get triggered in response to someone is there any way to see them in a better light? I mean, it seems that you attribute bad motives to the person? Doing this kind of projection is very powerful and actually a self fulfilling prophecy. I actually truly believe that most people don't have bad motives. They might screw up but it isn't purposeful. When you think of people like this it really does help to make the world seem like a better place and this makes it much easier to function in it.