Dear Vulgerlove,

Someone asked if I might have any advice for you, and I wish I did, but it seems like everyone else has given you the best of what I could.

Having a relationship with someone who is already in a committed relationship with someone else is always a bad idea, unless it's known by all parties and you're in a polyamorous relationship... You seem to be stuck with all the stress and decision-making responsibilities while the man in question has all the fun he wants with you and his family, too - the only responsibility he has is from his wife & kids, so he can basically 'core dump' to you when things get rough at home.

And now you've got the baby.

If I found myself in that situation, I think I would probably come clean with myself - your male friend hasn't made any offers of support voluntarily, and unless you want to let his family know that they've got a half-sibling, you're probably going to be on your own as far as financial aid. If you aren't in a position where you can take care of the child, and you don't want to terminate the pregnancy, now would be the time to start maybe looking into fostering & adoption services in your area.

I wish you all the luck in the world.